God’s grace to you dismantles the beliefs that give disgrace life. Grace re-creates what violence destroyed. One-way love is the change agent you need. Grace transforms and heals; and healing comes by hearing God’s statements to you, not speaking your own statements to yourself.
Someone told me once, "Amy, stop trying to be your own therapist"..stop trying to analyze and explain and justify to yourself, instead just listen to what God has to say to you. that's where healing comes from.